It's become more apparent in recent times how crucial it is that I be kind to myself, or at least not completely unkind. For the longest time, I've been one of my own worst enemies, and still am. I put myself down constantly, and for no good darn reason.
But what good does it do for one to be unkind to oneself? None, really. I mean, it has pushed me to work harder, to be a perfectionist, but at what cost? I'm always expecting more out of myself than what I can give, and I will never be satisfied with what I've done. It also can lead to a lower self-esteem: perhaps the person will begin to believe that they deserve the unkind treatment, or even expect it from others.
This self-perpetuating cycle has already begun in me- I'm unkind to myself all the time and I realise it. The thing is, I can work on changing it. I can tell myself kind things, even if I don't yet believe them. It's not something that has to last this way. I can change. That's one of the good things about human behaviour- if you want, you can change what is maladaptive and make it more suitable for a functional life.
It'll be difficult. I'm trying my best to be kind to myself. The current challenge is one kind thing about myself a week. Can I do it? Can you?