Showing posts with label mental disorders. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mental disorders. Show all posts

14 September 2011

Are You OK? Part 5

In Australia, it's RUOK Day. If we were to adopt it here in America, we'd have one day left. I'm going to pretend as though it were adopted here, and post straight through.

Making that Conversation

What if  you're not okay? What if you're on edge yourself, or you've just had some kind of crisis yourself that you don't know how to deal with?

Well, because part of RUOK Day is creating conversations, an approach I might take, having been an in a situation where I was the one not okay, I would first ask the person if they were okay- if so, then if we could sit down and have a chat.

Of course, I would approach someone I trusted, rather than a random person in this situation, but it's important to make sure that you're taken care of too. It's difficult to help someone else when you're in a bad place yourself, and it's definitely not healthy.

Of course, if in this situation, you see someone that may need some talkin' to, some loving, some one-on-one, you may ask them if they're doing alright, then emphasize the importance of finding someone to talk to about what's going on with them. After all, you're not a shrink-or, well, probably not, I can't speak for the whole population-and some of these situations require further conversations anyway. Just seeing that someone noticed them may make a difference.

There are wrong ways to go about this, though. It would be wrong to walk up to a person, ask if they're ok, then as soon as they say no, tell them "you should talk to someone about that"....wrong, indeed. You can talk to someone, and you can listen to a certain extent, but you have to be careful and know your limits. If they start talking about a sensitive topic, you can tell them "hey mate, I'm going through a rough time too, and I want you to know that I'm here for you, but this is a sensitive topic for me too right now, but I'd like for you to talk to someone about it."

Just as with every topic, there is a sensitive and insensitive approach to every facet. You don't want to approach a vulnerable person in an insensitive fashion, but you do want to make sure that they're noticed and taken care of, understandably. It's okay to tell them that you're not okay too, and that you'd like for them to see someone about it- in a nice way.

Most of all, on RUOK Day, make sure you're taking care of yourself first- if you need to see someone, and haven't made that appointment yet, perhaps consider doing so. If you've not considered it, think about what might help you. If you're not sure you're okay, maybe find a mate and talk to them about what's going on with you. You don't always have to wait for them to ask if you're okay- sometimes it's good to start a conversation yourself. Make sure your needs are taken care of, and that you'll be able to handle everything you take on.

Australians, I hope that you are all having a wonderful RUOK Day, and that many conversations are happening and going well. I want to hear all about it.

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13 September 2011

Are You OK? Part Cuatro

What do you do if someone's not ok?

So you do strike up that conversation on RUOK Day...but someone isn't ok.

Well, one thing you can do is talk to them, and find out what's bothering them. Maybe they're just not feeling OK, maybe they just need someone to talk to. After all, sometimes we all just need to talk a little, right? The day is about suicide prevention, but suicide prevention can start with working on mental illness itself- after all, according to the American National Institute on Mental Health, over 90% (yes, you read that right, and I highlighted it with large font for a reason) of suicides have a precursor of mental illness or substance abuse.

This means that the suicides that we're trying to prevent- bravo!- often follow along with mental illness and substance abuse. While asking a person if they're doing okay can prevent suicide, it can also bring a person out of a rut, or perhaps target those with mental health or substance abuse disorders that haven't been brought out of the background yet- however, a number of exactly how many people are walking around undiagnosed with a mental illness cannot be found...because they are undiagnosed....ie not on record.

RUOK Day is great for this- it can help bring these people to realize- hey wait, maybe there is a problem. It can help them to realize it's okay to have an issue, and it's okay to have a conversation about it! It can help to possibly bring them out of a rut and into the world, where they may actually seek help for their disorder, or the conversation itself may include encouragement to seek help (hopefully the latter, if they are that far off).

RUOK Day gives a chance for people who are undiagnosed and living behind the scenes to be themselves and discuss their problems without the stigma of being "ill" or "crazy". It's often the misconception of the people who refuse to seek treatment that this is the kind of label they will receive- having talked to some of them myself- and therefore they refuse medication or treatment.

Initiatives like this help them to realize that having a mental illness is not something that is all that uncommon, and will not prevent them from living a full and possibly even happy life. They can help people, they can work jobs, they can go places and not be recognized for what's going on in their heads- they just have to allow themselves to realize that what's going on is not their fault. It's wonderful that Australia not only encourages their citizens to go out and engage in conversations, but creates an entire day and promotes it nationwide, even having companies and schools set aside times for citizens to sit down and ask people if they are doing okay, and catch up with people who might not be doing so okay.

This is an excellent way to catch out people who may be dealing with a mental illness early on and get them the help they need, whether they seek it or need help seeking it, and is also a great initiative for getting people to help others and reach out when a friend is in need. I've noticed that Australia is a very caring country, and how well people bond together when there is a need or disaster- they are there for each other- there is no blaming or people pushing others out. People simply jump in and help one another.

This is simply one example of how well Australians do that- citizens are jumping in and helping one another, crisis or not, asking people if they are doing okay, helping them if they need help, encouraging them to seek help if they can, all in an effort to decrease suicide and help relieve mental illness, a large factor of suicide, in the country. One conversation can do something like that. It's amazing what one conversation can do.

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12 September 2011

Are You OK? Part Drei

Are You OK?

Don't let the answer be the end of the conversation.

This Australian cause is more than just going around and asking random people if they are ok. It is about sparking conversation, and talking about things that matter. It is about talking about the things that affect lives every day- mental illness and suicide- things that are normally brushed under the rug.

Of course, "Are you OK?" is an easy way to start such a conversation, but it certainly isn't the end. People are encouraged to stay and talk with their friends, colleagues, family members, and discuss things that are going on, and things that are troubling them. As mentioned in an earlier blog, this cause last year alone sparked 65,000 conversations- a number pulled from the RUOK Day website, which you can link to from the top of my page this month, and it is also under my "Causes" tab.

These things- mental illness and suicide- are not things that people will often approach you to talk about- often you will have to approach them and ask them how they are doing, build a bond if there is not already one, and ensure faith and confidence. This day helps to pull people from the woodworks- people whom everyone else normally wouldn't talk to- and help them out a bit. It would be nice if people would talk to these sort of people every sort of day, but this is a baby step in that direction.

What this day encourages is friendly conversation, more than just a simple hello. Some people get little more than a hello on a daily basis, and it's quite sad- sometimes this alone can drive depression and other mental illnesses. Engaging in friendly conversation is a healthy and vital part of a person's social life. Reaching out to others who might not have this in their life will help to enhance their life, and quite possibly save them.

This is not just a problem in Australia. Worldwide, there are people who are isolating- some people stay alone for the majority of their day- caregivers, people with social anxiety or agoraphobia, people with disabilities- they have trouble getting out. For me, it would be encouraging to see people not only reach out to those that they see sitting outside or at work, but maybe ring a friend, or a family member that they know doesn't get out much, and ask them how they're doing, have a decent conversation with them, and possibly be their lifeline. You may be the only person they have had a meaningful conversation with in months.

If you can keep up this sort of habit, that would be even better. Perhaps phone once or twice a week, check in on a caregiver or someone who has social anxiety, see if they've done anything, who they've talked to, or even what shows they've watched on TV, how they're feeling, what other kinds of things they've done, what they're interested in doing, etc. Reaching out to someone isn't limited to one day a year, but it's a great place to start.

And reaching out to someone isn't limited to the words "Are you Okay?" These words are just a way to start a meaningful conversation- other words can be used too- "Hey, how's it going?", "Hey, haven't seen you in a while!", "Hey, what have you been up to?"- these are all conversations that could spark conversations. The conversation is just as important as the start. If you leave someone with just the "Are you okay?" and a bleak, meaningless "yeah, I guess"...then you haven't really done much. Question into it, or ask what's troubling them, and you might find more. They might actually appreciate having someone ask about it. Don't push, but let them talk.

Often I find that someone will pass with "Hey, how are you?" and I'll say "OK, I guess" but by the time I've answered, they're already out of earshot. What good has that done? The initiative isn't to just ask a question- the initiative is to make a difference. So go out there, make a difference, ask questions, and engage. You might learn new things, change a day, or change a life. The important thing is, you'll make a difference.

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11 September 2011

Are you OK? Part Deuce

RUOK Day- Going unnoticed

I know I've been having a hard time as of late. A few people have been kind enough to ask me if I'm ok, and it's been really helpful. It's been really an example of how helpful RUOK Day can be, even though it's not quite RUOK Day yet.

Before I get too far, I want to thank the people who have been asking me how things are going. You never know how far just a small conversation can go, or how much of a difference it can make. I just wanted to interject that, before I go any further.

You see, I don't have many people to talk to. I don't know if many of you have noticed, but there are some days where I post several times, and there are some days where I don't post at all. There are some days where I'm more OK than others. I think this is true for all of us. We all have our up and down days, some more than others, and if some of you have read some of my posts, you'll know what I'm talking about when I say I have a lot of down days, especially recently.

The thing is, RUOK Day only covers one calendar day out of the year. What if we were all to ask "Are you OK?" every once in a while, or even just sit down and have lunch with someone sitting alone, not even asking if they're ok, and strike a conversation? What if we were to make this more than an initiative, but a habit? You see, people don't just have a bad day on September 15th. People don't just think of suicide, the targeted initiative of RUOK day, one day out of the year.

Yes, it's good to target an initiative, but it's also nice to realize that there are a lot of people who need friends and company, and perhaps just an "are you okay?" more than one day out of the year. Don't get me wrong, I love the initiative, and I'd love to keep the initiative and spread it to the US. There aren't enough people aware of the rising problems in the states or elsewhere in the world. I think it should be more than Australian- I think the WHO (World Health Organization) should take note!

But when you see or notice someone that has begun posting less than usual, someone whose Twitter account hasn't been posted on for two days when they usually post every day, someone sitting alone at a table, someone with a solemn or lonely look, I think it would be a grand idea to at least approach them and say hello. My Twitter account has gone unposted for days when I'm feeling down and unwanted- not because I'm busy, but because I'm down. All too often I'm alone all day, and a simple hello would be a spark for me. I'd feel appreciated. I'd feel noticed. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Sure, sometimes people take breaks, and that's ok, but sometimes, people don't take breaks just because they need one. Check in on your friends, see if they're doing ok.

Sometimes, people do feel unnoticed. Sometimes, that's all it takes, feeling unnoticed and unwanted. It's very easy to be pushed over the edge when you feel like nobody wants you around. The world is empty, and nobody wants you there. Nobody cares to say hi, or ask if you're okay. The idea of RUOK Day is not just to raise awareness that suicide and mental illness exists, but to help prevent it, and I have hopes that the actions taken on RUOK day will extend beyond that day.

After all, it's not just one day a year that these things touch the lives of people in Australia (or the US, or any other part of the world). Some days, whether it's September, November, February, May, or July, I just wish someone would tell me hello, or ask how my day is going, without having a global initiative telling them to do so. We're humans, and we're made to be social creatures. We should be aware of this on more than one day out of the year. We're humans, and we should be communicating with each other as much as we can, especially when we see that someone is down and needs a lift.

So if you see someone whose account has been abandoned without explanation for a few days, or whose blog is a bit more sparse than usual, if you see someone standing alone looking lonely, or sitting alone at a table, perhaps ask how they're doing or just say hello. It doesn't have to be a conversation even- after all, they may just be waiting- but if they need someone, you may be the person that comes along and makes a change in their day. That's what this initiative is all about. We can change, and save, lives.

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09 September 2011

Are You OK?

Are you OK?

Americans, how often do you hear this phrase? You pretty much hear it when your life is crashing down, and it pretty much looks like your not okay, so the question is pretty much a moot point, right?

In Australia, they have an amazing initiative, which I wish America would at least take note of, called "RUOK Day." On this day, September 15, workers, university students, and high school students alike, as well as just about anyone else, are encouraged to ask colleagues, friends, and neighbors, and just about anyone else they know "Are you okay?"

The great thing is, it's not like our "awareness weeks"....where nobody is aware of them. I mean, how many people were aware that this week was National Suicide Prevention Awareness Week? I was, but I didn't plug it because I wanted to plug this cause instead. Why? Because RUOK day is a much more aware, nationwide cause. People are talking about it on blogs, forums, in newspapers, on the news, and everywhere. I've seen it ad nauseum, and I'm not even in Australia- they even have a website for it- click here to see what I'm talking about.

The point is, these Aussies know that suicide is a noteworthy cause that should be looked out for- it's not something that is outwardly obvious, as some of us have experienced and seen. I've lost someone myself- she showed no outward signs. One day she was fine, the next, I hear she hung herself. Corky lost a good friend to suicide when he was 13- Thirteen people!! What if someone had asked them "Are you OK?"

But Americans don't do that. Americans don't have that level of awareness. They establish weeks, and assume that people who know someone related to the cause will wise up, and those who don't really need it won't care- therefore it becomes less of a cause. RUOK day is an excellent cause, and, according to the RUOK day website, created over 650,000 conversations- people who would not otherwise have gone to someone to talk about what was troubling them.

Sadly, so many people commit suicide because they have nobody to talk to in those dark times of need, and RUOK day is just one initiative to show that someone out there cares. It's not a superficial "Are you OK" in passing, but a real "Are you OK? Let's have a conversation." Americans don't do that. Americans are too caught up in their everyday lives, and unaware of initiatives or causes to stop and have a slow conversation. It's sad and appalling, the difference in cultures.

How many suicides could be prevented by the adoption in America of an RUOK day or similar initiative? How many lives could be saved? How many lives could be changed? (after all, it helps with mental illness, too). How many friendships could be forged, and how many gates opened for communication? America, I know we're caught up in a lot of issues, but we need to stop and think about other individuals too. What can we do for ourselves, what can we do for them, how can we help? Something like this could create a buzz, and that's just the kind of thing we need.

I know many of the people reading this are Aussies who will participate or be swept up in the day itself anyway, but this is addressed to the Americans who aren't- I'd like you to participate, with the Aussies, on RUOK day (that would be this next Thursday, September 15), sit down, and speak with your friends, ask them how they are, check in, and make sure everything is ok. Sure, on the outside, everything may seem ok, but often people put on a façade in front of everyone- one on one is best. Have a cup of coffee, have a lunch break. Set aside your newspaper and talk to the guy who sits alone in the corner- you may be the only person he talks to all week.

Americans, we are too divided from one another, and too unaware of the initiatives going on around us. Mental health is something that really needs to be focused on, because a large portion of society has a mental illness- last I checked, a good 6 percent- and suicide is one of the top 5 leading causes of death in America. This is serious. Check in, talk to people, have a conversation- it won't take that much time out of your day- and be sincere about it. I'd honestly like to see this go farther than the reaches of my readers. I'd like to see it spread across the country (broad, for a weeks' notice), or at least make some sort of impact. If it does have an impact, or if someone has a story, I want to hear it. I'll have a linkyer up in two weeks, right next to my *new* blog hop- for RUOK day stories. I'm serious about this.

Are you OK? Are you being honest?

I'm not really OK, but I'm hanging in there. I will be ok, but it would be nice if someone in real life took the time of day to ask about it. Nobody has. Good on you, Australia, not only for making it an initiative, but for having a well-publicized initiative that people know about and participate in. One more reason to love Australia

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31 August 2011

Darkness: The Fight

This is my fourth "Write on Wednesday" post.

I've found the others less personal, more fictional, but this one is a story from my life- it's all about being honest, telling a 100% truth, but I don't have to tell everything.

One thing I've found about my story--well, many of my stories--is that there are elements of "me" that are always secret. Truth be told, the truth is always told, but there are some secrets- we all have secrets. What's made part of everything such a fight for me, though, lies within my secrets, the demons that haunt me, and the trouble with writing this exercise, the 100% truth, is that I might find myself slipping into the things that I may not want to share, or that may not be easy to share. It's not so much a thing of openness, as a thing of security and worry about how it will affect my future. However, it may be healthy to air it a little and see how it feels. I've opened up on other forums- time to open up slightly here.

The darkness is encapsulating. It's like nothing I've ever seen before. In the years before, I've been able to hide in it well, pretend it's not there, and nobody would notice. Family, "friends," schoolmates, most of my former coworkers, they were all oblivious to the darkness that surrounded me and the fight that I fought, or if not, they asked nothing of it. In my teen years, it was less encapsulating, easier to hide. I could put a curtain around it, a façade of sorts, and nobody would know. In college, I would talk about it, but nobody would believe it- after all, I seemed so well for so long, why would it all of the sudden change?

These days, though, it is not as easy. Life has become more of a challenge in itself. As I push myself harder, fight harder, the darkness is becoming deeper. I want out of this darkness; I can no longer hide it, but I have found that in the time I spent hiding it, it's become so much deeper, it's extended to a depth that I can't escape, I'm holding on but I can't fight and hold on at the same time. I want to do this on my own, I don't want anyone to know, but I can't. There's nowhere to escape, nowhere to hide, nothing to put in front of this darkness to make it go away or make it smaller. It has become bigger than I am, and in itself, taken over my life.

To someone on the outside, it's hard to see or understand the darkness or the reason for it. I should be happy, by all means. I have nothing to be unhappy about. You're right. I have a family. I have a home. I have food, and I have clothing. I went to, and graduated from, a major university. I have all the things a person could want, and then some. Plenty of books, a nice room decorated the way I want it, a personal laptop, a nice smartphone, my sock monkey, a sister whom I love to death, my physical health (not perfect, but close enough), no huge personal losses...what is there to be unhappy about? Where does the darkness come from?

I don't know where the darkness comes from. It's something I can't explain. It'll leave me crying at unexplained times, and it left me fighting my way through college. I fight the darkness every time I have to go somewhere, every time I have to do something when I am feeling the darkness weigh down on me. I wake up to face the day and all I want to do is close my eyes again and forget, stop fighting, let the darkness take over and consume me; it's what I've wanted for so many years, but I continue to fight.

Nevertheless, I carry on with the darkness, no matter how much it's weighing on me, and I try not to let it affect me. I've done well at carrying it through everything, and even getting a degree with the darkness inches from me. In the end of my college days, I even started pulling my grades up, finishing the last 2 years with more As than I saw in my first 4 years. It's a rough fight, an endless fight, and even more so fighting alone. In college, I found a way to get someone to fight with me, but now, I'm on my own. It's an uphill battle.

One thing, one last thing that I must share- the darkness is the reason I fight. If it were not for the darkness, I would not know what I am fighting for, and I may not be where I am today. The darkness gives me a reason to fight, and it helps me to fight. It helps me to know about the people I am fighting for, and it pushes me to fight harder. I know what it's like to fight this fight. I know what it's like to be in the darkness, and I fight it every day. To know that the fight I go through every day could save someone's life? That is something that makes the fight even more worthwhile. I don't enjoy the darkness, not a bit, but I know that the darkness has taught me a lesson that can used to help someone else, and has given me more strength and taught me more than any textbook or professor could. I'm not thankful for the darkness, but I'm thankful for the insights and perspective it's added to my life. It's made me a better person, and it's given me direction. Most of all, even though I have to fight through the darkness to get there, it's given me something to fight for.

Write On Wednesdays Exercise 12 - The Fight. You have to be honest, because without honesty, your work won't speak to people. You have to be fearless, because restraint in writing can be perceived. But that doesn't mean that you have to bare your entire soul. Choose what you want to share, choose what is relevant to your story. But make sure that what you choose to share is real, and true. The exercise today is to write a story from your life. And remember: it has to be 100% true, but it doesn't have to be 100% of the truth. There's a difference. The keywords are: The Fight

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Day 30: To Infinity and Beyond!

Day 30: A dream for the future beyond next year...think long term

I've known this one for a very, very long time. I've written about it many times. Some people are probably sick of hearing about it, so this will be very brief. This is the final day of "30 Days About Me," appropriately asking about what will happen beyond here. I know I've missed some days- I've had a few people say they want to participate, and I don't have the comprehensive list on my blog, but if you want all the prompts to do a 30 days about yourself, you can find the list linked here, and although you won't be able to link up to the posts for the month of August, it'll give you the opportunity to participate in a 30 day writing thingy.

On to my dream for the future.

1) I want to see Germany, Austria, other parts of Europe like London, Paris, and maybe other places like Norway, Iceland, but the main place that I would absolutely love to go, if I ever had the chance, would be Australia. I'd also like to see some parts of South America, Canada, the Caribbean, (not Central America though), maybe the country South Africa. Not an exhaustive list, but the highlights.

2) I want to have a nice place of my own, not necessarily with a family- however, if I do ever have kids, they would probably be adopted- heaven forbid if they end up with my genes. I don't want kids like me. They wouldn't be very happy, and they'd have a lot to worry about.

3) Learn German. I'd love to become fluent, but that, I know, is rough after the teenage years because of brain plasticity. However, if it can happen, I would love it.

4) I want to pay off all my debts and still be able to afford to live comfortably. Being a social worker, I know that's gonna be rough. I'll have to work it out somehow. I'll probably end up working two jobs anyway, because I don't like downtime.

5) Move away from Texas. I know it's where I live and all, but it's not where I want to live forever. I'd also like to travel the country before settling down, and see all the sights that there are to see, in every state. Road trip, anyone?

6) Feel better....for good. Not just avoid bad days- I know they happen...but avoid the depression. There's a difference.

7) Find someone who cares about me genuinely. I doubt this will happen, but it is a dream of mine. I don't believe that everyone has a soulmate- really, I don't.

8) Now that there are 7, I have to reach 10, so I need a few more. Let's see. I would love to see both my brother and sister graduate from college, even though my brother is currently no longer attending college. I'd love to see them get married (my brother is on his way there) and have families of their own, and have happy lives themselves.

9) I'd like to find a niche. A place I belong. Somewhere I can feel comfortable and be myself. A place where I know I'm accepted, and where I don't feel I have to bend backwards to be someone else, or wear a mask or façade to fit in. Friends and everything will be there.

10) I'd love to meet all my bloggy friends. That means all the ones from all the corners of the world- readers and bloggers alike. I want to know who it is that likes what I'm writing, as well as the ones that I'm reading. I want to meet them all!!

THIS IS PERHAPS THE BIGGEST DREAM OF MY ENTIRE LIFE:::::
My dream, my biggest dream, is that I will become a LMSW. For those of you not educated in the lingo of Social Work, that means a Licensed Masters' of Social Work. This would require a second degree- probably about 2 extra years of schooling, which I hope to complete at UT Arlington- and further licensing.

This is my goal for the future. To help as many people as I possibly can. I know I can't help everyone, but I can at least make a difference with the ones I can reach. Each one that I can help makes a difference. That's what counts.

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16 April 2011

The tip of the iceberg

I've hit a bit of a writer's block, but I've decided that I should post more often anyway, despite a lack of ideas, because perhaps that will keep people more interested in what I have to say. Of course, this isn't guaranteed. Anyway, I just chose a topic that is very related to the homework I've completed, and given myself some time to think about cognition and learning, the conscious and unconscious mind, and a few other things. It may be boring, but at least I found something to write about, eh?

We have thoughts constantly, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week; some we are aware of, some we are not. This has been drawn out time and again by different psychoanalysts- Freud, Adler, Jung, Horney (the name of a psychoanalyst), Fromm, Sullivan, Erikson, Rogers, Allport, Eyseneck, Bandura, Skinner, Rotter, Mischel- beginning with Freud and his establishment of the id, ego, and superego, as well as conscious, preconscious, and unconscious thought- through the 20th century, the theory has been tweaked to include a certain thoughts and behaviours, as well as their associations with positive and negative consequences-and continuing to today, thoughts, feelings, and ideas have been tied to different outcomes, behaviours, and lifestyles.

If you think about it, it makes sense. I mean, how can you do or think something without your brain at least processing it in some manner first? You may not be aware of it, but your brain is constantly processing things, so often in the background, in your preconscious, where you're not aware of it. You're not aware of breathing, but your preconscious mind is doing the thinking about that for you. You walk, you talk, all controlled by the activity in your brain. Even more complex, you drive, you eat, you learn new things every day. You don't choose to do these things, "it just happens"....that's your preconscious's way of saying "Hey, I'm working up here, helping you out, yanno?" You breathe, chew, swallow, and move your mouth, arms, legs, and other parts of your body without technically cognitively thinking about it. It would be awkward if we had to tell our bodies what we wanted to do every time we had to move or do something. Thus, our preconscious and subconscious step in and take those activities over for us.

So when it comes to other cognitive things like communication, studying, daily activities of living, these same types of rules should apply. For example, in order to say something, positive or negative, right or wrong, your brain has to process the thought, and send the signal to your muscles to control mouth movement, and it has to recognise the coding and language, and turn it into communication. Never thought it took so much thinking, did you?

Even spontaneous things are thought about, even if only briefly, before they happen. Freudian slips, accidentally saying what is going through your head, your brain processes all that stuff. Impulsive shopping, or gambling, or any sort of addiction or any other type of problem you might have, they are all affected by your cognition and thinking.

Before I bore everyone and chase them away with the specifics of psychological methods of conditioning and making cognitive changes, I will bring up that in order to change your behaviour, you have to realise that your thoughts and behaviours are connected; the same applies if you want to change your thoughts. If you want to feel more positive, people often recommend using positive affirmation- saying positive things about yourself in front of the mirror until you believe them- to produce and reinforce positive thinking. If you want to change the way you treat someone or something, you have to change the way you think about it. It sounds complicated, and it takes a lot of work, but it can be done. I believe, in this modern society, that there are a lot of thought patterns and behaviours that can (and should) be made, mostly for the betterment of society as a whole. I just wish everyone was enthusiastic about learning about all this psychology stuff as I am. We need more therapists, more counselors, more people experienced in this "stuff"....because there are a lot of problems out there to be solved.

Notice that when I mention these things that I have learnt in psychology class, they have nothing to do with mental or mood disorders, but rather with the way people deal with and recognise their thoughts. What is learnt in psychology classes, mostly in the lower levels, has little to do with disorder, and much to do with how everything is connected together. Some people think that psychology classes teach people about mental health disorders and subsequently cause the psychology student to think something is wrong with them, but this is quite opposite to the truth. Very rarely does a intro to psych class spend more than a week or two on disorders- more time is spent on 1) very boring brain anatomy sessions, 2) Freudian psychoanalysis, 3) the development of classical conditioning, operant conditioning, and eventually cognitive-behavioural theory, with a few other things dumped in there such as dream studies, sexuality, examining behaviour, countering misleading theories that are popular, and learning about the profession in general.

[UPDATE:] Sometimes, it's coincidental that a mental health problem will arise, or a student will seek treatment, after taking a simple intro to psychology course. Sometimes age is a factor- I took my first psychology class when I was 17, almost 18- and the requirement for seeking treatment without your parents taking you is that you be an adult- aged 18+ in order to receive services. By this time, I had finished psychology. Purely coincidental. It's a false association simply because seeking treatment is related to age, not to what courses a person takes in school. Often, those under 18 will refuse to tell their parents about any symptoms, no matter how severe, simply because they think their parents will tell them their is nothing wrong, it is all in their head. Another response related to faulty thinking, simply because most teenagers don't talk to their parents about this stuff, and the parents become clueless. It's not quite their fault- how could they have known if nobody told them? Their unconscious and conscious don't seem to believe- due to lack of previous evidence- that anything could be askew. This is a point where one must question themselves on the level of information that they have, or have had, available to them, and study their responses. Sometimes, they may find something from the preconscious that they never realised- symptoms that they may have seen but never paid much mind to, for example- and realise that intro to psychology is so broad-based that one cannot base their entire behaviour and demeanour on what is learnt in that class.

Often, in psychology, the thoughts that you are unaware of, the ones that are instinctive, like the fight-or-flight reflex, or attraction to another human being, for example, are attributed to the unconscious mind, which is often unavailable to the person themselves, as compared to the conscious mind, which is visible and can even be analysed; this is often compared to an iceberg: What you see above water is just "the tip of the iceberg"....but that iceberg stands upon a great amount of ice that is hidden beneath the water, the part that isn't obvious when taken at face value. Our thoughts are much like that- there are the few that you can see, then there are the preconscious and unconscious thoughts that aren't quite as obvious, but they are the basis for your conscious thought. Some place the numbers at 10% of your thoughts being conscious, while the other 90% are unconscious (which includes the preconscious). So, 90% of the time, we are thinking in ways that we are unaware of, that occasionally spill over into our behaviour.

What does all this mean? Sometimes it's a bit scary to me to think that 90% of my thoughts I'm not even aware of, although some of them can be retrieved- with difficulty, from the preconscious, but still available. Most of my waking hours, and all of my sleeping hours, are spent in the unconscious! People see the 10%, and it's easy to judge someone when you think you see the whole picture, but upon seeing an iceberg, it's near impossible to determine the nature of the iceberg that is "below the water" so to speak. It's difficult to judge a person and their character by the things that they are cognitively and consciously aware of.

When I think about this, I wonder about the people in the world who are cruel, evil-spirited, and just flat out cold. How much of this part of their personality are they aware of? Do they realise the consequences for their cold behaviour? Do they realise the effect it has on those around them? This also leads to questions about what truly is cognitive thought, and what are those things we keep in our unconscious simply because that is where they are stored?

This leads me to follow the school of thought that we must all consider that most of what we do and say is not controlled by something that is easily seen or monitored, and can sometimes be completely off-base. Next time someone offends you, or says something a little strange, or even behaves a little strangely, take a moment to think about whether they really knew and realised what they were doing or not. Take a few minutes to think about the things that you may have consciously or unconsciously said or done in the past- and perhaps you'll be better able to understand people and their quirks, flaws, and the beauty that all people really have, even if it isn't self evident.

A lot of unconscious stuff can come out of dream studies, because this is when the unconscious is truly at its best. Everything done in sleep is unconscious- ever wonder why it's so difficult to remember exact details of most dreams the next day....even the good ones? That's your unconscious, typically. Some call this "repression," but I believe that sometimes, it's just something that begins and stays in the unconscious. With dream studies, people can analyse the things they see in their sleep, and they can begin to *attempt* to wrap their head around what's going on in their mind. The most they'll probably get is preconscious information, but it's worth an effort, since your sleep is, naturally, unconscious. Unfortunately, we can't always be aware of all of our dreams, so we just kind of have to live life flying by the seat of our pants, letting our unconscious take over when it needs to (such as for bodily functions like eating, breathing, swallowing, etc.), and just trying to understand things about ourselves, rather than judge someone else. After all, you're just seeing their tip of the iceberg, their conscious awareness of thoughts and actions.

So, what exactly does this have to do with anything? Well, there are a lot of people that have undesired behaviours that they'd like to change, but have little idea of how to do so. Perhaps realising that some of these are unconscious in nature, and need a bit more explanation, would help them to realise that significant changes take time, effort, focus, and, of course, patience. For example, a smoker may want to quit for quite a long time, but in their unconscious mind, they might be constantly thinking about it, whether they want to or not. Sometimes these thoughts push through to the conscious, and they reach for that cigarette. They don't usually understand why  the impulse is there, but it is extremely strong, especially when it comes to addiction treatment.

Are there any things you wish you didn't do, but you can't figure out why? Look to your unconscious. Any habits that you can't figure out the reason for? Look again to your unconscious. Any pervasive thoughts that you can't determine the source? Again, look to your unconscious. Since most of your instinctive thoughts and behaviours are rooted in the unconscious, it might be something that you just have to search yourself for, try to understand yourself.

Next comes classical conditioning- where a stimulus in a person's environment that was once neutral becomes a conditioned stimulus- that is, they associate an unrelated stimulus with an unrelated response. This is what that guy Ivan Pavlov toyed around with in his classical conditioning studies. He began to notice that even if he had not produced the food yet, the dogs began to salivate because they associated the sound of the bell with the deliverance of food. Bell! Food! Completely unrelated, but when the bell is paired with food, you can remove the food and the bell will still cause the dog to think you're gonna feed him. If you want to test this, go to a fish tank and take the top off like you're going to feed them. Chances are, they'll float to the top looking for food, simply because the lid is off the tank, although the lid is not something that is related to food in any way. These pairings are unconscious, and conditioning is fairly successful, if used in the right way. How are these things paired together? Unconscious thought. It often becomes so well conditioned that the person doesn't even realise hat they have been conditioned to think this way.

John B. Watson literally tortured a child by associating rabbits with a loud noise in the background- the child soon became afraid of rabbits, even though there is nothing about a rabbit or other small, cute furry creatures to be deathly afraid of. The poor child, Little Albert, became afraid of anything fuzzy- including beards and Santa Claus!!- before being returned to his parents. He was conditioned to associate loud sounds with rabbits, and therefore be afraid of them (I had to do a little research to find the name of the psychologist and child). This is a case of extreme misuse of conditioning and experiments that more than likely scarred the child for life- it is even rumoured that he committed suicide later in life, although I could not find any resources confirming this theory. What caused such trauma in this child, just from a rabbit and some loud sounds? The thoughts that connected the two, and the result was an intense fear of furry, fuzzy things, which is also related the thought- in his mind, the two were connected.

Then come operant conditioning and the reinforcement theories. Positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, extinction, punishment, token economies, to name a few. First note: anything that says "reinforcement" encourages a behaviour to take place more frequently. There is a difference between negative reinforcement and punishment, which took me 4 straight years to completely understand. Positive reinforcement, that's easy. Intrinsic and extrinsic rewards for a desired behaviour, which lead to an increase in that behaviour. Negative reinforcement and punishment are the kickers.

Negative reinforcement is when a behaviour is reinforced by removing some type of aversive stimulus. For example, a negative reinforcer for getting up in the morning could be the blaring of your alarm clock. I know for me, I'll do anything within my power to make the sound stop- including getting up and starting my day. Granted, I shouldn't need an alarm because my day starts so late (often after 11am), but the same principle applies (since I'm an insomniac, and waking up at 11am is actually cutting short my hours of sleep). The negative reinforcer is the aversive stimulus; removing this stimulus by getting out of bed and turning it off is the increased behaviour that results from the removal of this stimulus. You don't want to listen to your alarm clock blare for 2-3 hours....That's such an annoying thing! You'll do anything to get rid of it! Thus, it is a negative reinforcer, because it increases the behaviour of getting up when the alarm goes off.

Punishment, on the other hand, is a negative consequence resulting from an unwanted behaviour. Often, this is considered an ineffective form of operant conditioning- that is, punishment doesn't necessarily decrease the unwanted behaviour, especially if it is not paired with that behaviour. For example, if a pet receives a scolding 3 hours after taking a dump on a rug, the dog will not be exactly aware of what it is he is being punished for, and, not making the connection, will likely do so again. Besides, the scolding only lasts a short amount of time, right?

The theory is same with punishment with children. Granted, I have never had children of my own, but in my opinion (however biased it may be), punishment in the forms of spanking or yelling/shouting are ineffective. Often, the punisher comes way too late in the game, and is unlikely to keep the child from repeating the same act over and over. Parents may be unconscious of this lack of connection, as it is not uncommon to see a parent giving a spanking. The child receives a spanking, cries a bit, then later, repeats the same behaviour, and the parents wonder why. Alternatives like time outs immediately after a behaviour have been suggested, but not having children, I am unable to test this theory, and thereby unable to make any confirmations as to the efficacy of the time out. Some parents are extremely against it- spanking is the only way to get to their children's heads....or so they think.

Another possibility is extinction. This is where a behaviour, wanted or unwanted, goes without any reinforcement or punishment, and thereby decreases. Think about what people say about bullies. If you ignore them enough, they receive no satisfaction from their negative and cruel behaviour, become dissatisfied, and move on. If a behaviour is not reinforced or punished in any way, but rather ignored, it will go away over time. If you only lose at the slot machines, you'll tire of them very quickly, the only punishment being the loss of money. Of course, the positive reinforcer is the opportunity to win, but that doesn't happen very often. Basically, a behaviour can be extinguished, or made to go away, by the simple ignorance of the behaviour.

All of these theories have one thing in common- the thought that is associated with them. In order for any of these to work, a person has to make a connection- in their head- yes, using thought- in order to pair things together and take positive or negative thoughts from the situation.

In therapy, the primary goal is to change a person's thought patterns, because it is believed that neuropathology is related to the behaviours and thoughts a person exhibits. It is believed, and probably true, that if one can change their thoughts, they can affect the environment around them. If they begin to see authority figures as someone that wants to help- rather than seeing them as an overbearing and very intensely fearing them- they can conquer a fear, but they have to be able to recognise what is wrong with their thoughts, what kind of things they can do to change those thoughts, in order to change their behaviour and emotions around such authority figures. Surprisingly, this technique is extremely popular when working with people with severe problems who are trying to change the way they interact with their environment.

In social work, we sometimes use what is called PIE- person-in-environment- theory. This takes a person's environment into account, the effect the environment has on that person, and the effect that person has on their environment- to determine what type of intervention would be best for both that person and the environment around them. This is quite a strong theory, because people are often affected by what's going on around them, and tend to have an effect on those around them as well. When you can work with both, it typically results in a better outcome than if you had worked with one by itself.

Anyway, this is just a representation of some of the thoughts that have been passing through my idle mind, as I have actually not procrastinated, and finished several homework assignments. Apologies if it seems a bit scattered- I wrote it partially last night, and the rest today.

06 December 2010

Crazy Carols :D

This is meant to be lighthearted, and I found it humorous, thought I would share.

1. Schizophrenia --- Do You Hear What I Hear?

2. Multiple Personality Disorder --- We Three Kings Disoriented Are

3. Dementia --- I Think I'll be Home for Christmas

4. Narcissistic --- Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me

5. Manic --- Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Buses and Trucks and Trees and.....

6. Paranoid --- Santa Claus is Coming to Town to Get Me

7. Borderline Personality Disorder --- Thoughts of Roasting on an Open Fire

8. Personality Disorder --- You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry, I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll Tell You Why

9. Attention Deficit Disorder --- Silent night, Holy oooh look at the Froggy - can I have a chocolate, why is France so far away?

10. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder --- Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells....

11. Oppositional Defiant Disorder-- You better not cry - Oh yes I will
You better not Shout - I can if i want to

You better not pout - Can if i want to
I'm telling you why - Not listening
Santa Claus is coming to town - No he's not!!
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